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In fact, studies show that just two years into marriage, couples report that their relationship has become stale and boring. Enter this brilliant idea on how to go on a real first date with your spouse in a video from blogger Kristina Kuzmic.
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They love how it provides a creative way to get to know each other better, even after their years of marriage. After all, as life goes on, our schedules get busier and busier. In our first year of marriage alone, my husband and I have seen how tasks like doing the laundry, paying the bills, and going grocery shopping can take almost all of our free time together.
I can see how it will get even crazier after we start raising children.
But we also have incredible power to add fun and light-heartedness back into our marriages. When you go on a first date with your spouse, try something new by talking about each other, instead. Did your voice shake?
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For at home Date Nights, examine your weekly routine, find the time when a Date Night activity at home can be added to the routine this might mean recording one of your favorite TV shows for viewing at another time. Do NOT let other activities get in the way of this intimate time together.
For monthly Date Nights Out, set a routine night e. Only make adjustments to your Date Night Schedule, for important events that cannot be scheduled on another day. Date Night may also be at lunch rather than dinner, depending on work and family schedules. It's the time for intimate conversation, not the time of day that matters. Decide who is in charge of planning.
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There are as many ways to divide the planning as there are types of marriages. Here are some ideas to stimulate your thinking:. Work together to generate a list of restaurants that fit your budget and that you would both enjoy, then take turns picking a restaurant from the list and making the reservations, etc.
Be sure not to use this as a "gotcha" opportunity. If you know your spouse is habitually forgetful about these kinds of things, then volunteer to be the one who always makes the reservation. Or, if you have historically been forgetful about reservations, then you could use this as an opportunity to show your commitment to "date night", your marriage, and your spouse. When you generate the list of restaurants, also include other activities you could enjoy before or after dinner, such as a movie, a play, a concert, or a walk on the beach.
The secret is to always include a meal in a sit-down restaurant in order to create an atmosphere conducive to conversation. Generate a list of ideas that work for you, depending on the time of your Date Night dinner, dessert, night cap. Then take turns executing your at-home date. Take turns setting the table or the cozy night cap atmosphere.
Use the good china and stemware if you've got it. Play music and, most importantly, turn off the television. When it is your turn, avoid being too contrived, but do behave as if you have invited your spouse over to your place and take the lead, while allowing your spouse to help a bit. If you know your spouse is habitually clumsy in the kitchen or very busy at a new job, let it be ok for him to bring in take out.
You might volunteer to pick up something from the store or help a bit with the cooking. And, if you're the one known to stay out of the kitchen, then you could get out of your comfort zone and use this as an opportunity to show your commitment to "date night", your marriage, and your spouse. When you decide on the best format for you Date Night at home, be sure to make it doable, without much negative stress. There will be a bit of positive stress that accompanies the planning of something you hope your spouse enjoys.
Couples with children, often settle on the dessert and night cap option for their weekly at home date night. Either way, the point is to create a time for just the two of you to talk, to relax, and to show love and support for one another. So, whether it is your at-home Date Night or your monthly Date Night out, invest some time in refreshing your personal appearance.
At home, take a few minutes to wash up, spruce up and present your best "at home, relaxed" self. For going out, do your best version of a date-night primp routine. Present your best self, as you would have for a special mid-courtship date night. Have fun with it.
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You'll be surprised how luxurious that can feel to a busy wife and how transformative it can be for her. Whatever your relationship configuration, make sure Date Night out preparation adds anticipation, not anxiety to your date. Turn off your cell phone during Date Night. If you have small children and are truly not artificially worried about your babysitter being able to contact you, then put your phone on Do Not Disturb and only let the babysitter call come through.