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- 2. Thou shalt always be honest.
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And where German and American cultures are concerned, the potential for culturally-based misunderstandings is relatively negligible, so if two people aren't open-minded enough to try to work through such insignificant differences, the relationship doesn't stand a snowflake's chance in hell of surviving anyway. However for most people whose sweetheart is German, a foreigner, there are plenty of cultural nuances and minor difficulties resulting sometimes in an alienation.
Why not try to avoid it? Let's listen again to Lynne, the expert in human relations in general and in relations with a German man in particular. Being an American, she has unique experience of successful dating and communicating with a German.
Here are her practical recommendations and advice for American women dating German men can be vice-versa: for American men dating German women :. For the most part, you can treat him pretty much like you would almost any American man.
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For example, if you're the old-fashioned type, he's quite unlikely to complain if you expect him to pay for most of the dates; he'll probably half-expect it. But if you happen to be a supporter of women's rights and the responsibilities that go along with that , feel free to pay for the dates sometimes or half the time. It might surprise him a bit, but he will most likely appreciate it, especially if he's on the pitifully low budget that most students are on. He'll probably try to pay the bill anyway, as Germans often fight each other for the "privilege" of paying the bills, but you can then secretly pay the next bill when HE's not looking.
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2. Thou shalt always be honest.
Hayley Alexis at Oktoberfest in Munich. JJ Latest Stories. JJ Daily Roundtable. JJ Columnists. Are You In It? At least among people below 30 this is considered totally normal. Some German women might even feel patronized, if you pay their bill. But still, as the other comment said already, there is a large diversity of people here and you can not expect this to apply to every single one of them.
Here are some woman expats in Germany who talk about their experiences with that:. I lived in Germany for ten years and married a German man and can confirm all this! It can be frustrating thinking nobody's interested in you because casual flirtation is less common. But when someone really is interested in you, you know where you stand.
Hook up culture is less common, and I found that security nice. Also, leading someone on merely to see if you're interested in where the relationship is going is frowned upon. That's just not a nice thing to do. You should figure out where you stand and behave accordingly, out of respect for the other person. Good luck! They seperate friendship and relationship quite strictly.
Very annoying. Never really felt like an actual friend of the german guys i've dated. From the perspective of a British girl living in Germany long enough to now also be officially German, things I noticed:. The German culture values truth more highly than tact. It's not that German men want to hurt your feelings, but they generally want to hear the truth from you and assume you feel the same.
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Don't ask them questions when you want reassurance if the reassuring answer isn't guaranteed - they probably won't even have a clue that they're supposed to lie to make you feel good. Also, having a tendency to honesty over tact can seriously improve sexual relationships!
Depending on where you're coming from, you might find German men very groomed. As a Brit, when I first came I thought a lot more men here were gay than is actually the case German men, certainly professionals and young men, take a lot more care of their appearance than British men - or at least, than typical straight British men.