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Do you think that can lead to a good relationship? So I have a suspicion about this letter of yours. That is not my opinion. There are lots of cool people out there. And sometimes a friendship can provide a great basis for a really deep attachment. And I can do is tell you why that is, so you have a better chance of figuring out whether your situation might become one of those lovely outliers where you end up happily in twoo wuv.
A typical scenario goes like this: And, unfortunately, attraction levels are usually fixed.
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Go on Facebook and look up someone who expressed unreturned interest in you, say, four years ago. Are you more interested in her now? Maybe marginally — maybe she has a better fashion sense now; maybe a more impressive career.
But your basic attitude probably hasn't radically transformed, right? Of course, there are rare exceptions here.
Occasionally, people can go up a few rungs on the attractiveness ladder. Maybe you do a Chris Pratt and radically change your physique. Recently, and this is funny, because my REAL life friends give advice that's quite contradictory to online resources. I was talking to a friend about a woman I met that said that she's just "looking for friends for now", because she's just getting over a divorce.
Some would indicate' Dude you're friend zoned, move on, she wants nothing to do with you! The earlier, is strict and quite frankly, I think one is shooting themselves in the foot, socially You're basically closing yourself off in the long run and that "trying to get laid in 3 dates so you can lock her in as your girlfriend" is probably the most destructive thing one can pursue.
Delete Report Edit Lock Reported. Respond Your response must be between 3 and characters. When a woman says "friends first", she's bad basically saying you can take me out but don't bother making any Motel 6 reservations. The thing to do is tell your friend, " Lets go get a pizza and a beer just to get out of the house.
When the check comes, split it because that's what friends do. If she doesn't blink, she probably wants to be friends first.
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But if she balks and squaks, she just wanted a chump to buy her beer and pizza. Delete Report Edit Reported Reply. Of all the talk on here on how female friends expect a man to pay their bill, I had never had that happen, nor do I know any man that's come across this.
You make it sounds like it's quite common. The only time a man has paid for a woman's way, is when he willfully imposed himself on her. Basically, she insisted on paying, even though she refused You see HikerVeg Send a private message. I have some friends who are true social butterflies. Love to organize get togethers. Love to bring new faces into our group of friends. I have another friend who hates to go out in groups larger than 3 and has no problem going to bed at 8 pm.
So some people are worth getting friend zoned by cause you may meet people in a new social network.
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I would also be wary of someone who is only cultivating opposite sex friends. Friends are nice depending on what the friendship looks like. If these friends of yours only meet you one on one so that you never meet anyone new, then you're wasting your time. In real life, people want to keep up appearances when they dispense advice as to how open minded and generous they can be when telling other people how to live their life. When people give you advice, you should observe whether they live the advice they give or are they benefited by it.
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Sometimes, people will give you advice that benefits them. Women who have or would like to have male friends will of course give you the kind of advice that you mentioned in your post.
Zombie Send a private message. Being friends means you were eliminated as a romantic partner but are decent enough to spend time with as a friend. Friends first is a well intentioned trap. I am generalizing but that's not a bad thing. Generally speaking you shouldn't play with wild animals. Sure it might not always end badly for you or the animal, but generally speaking the risk isn't worth it.
Same thing applies here.