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Hopped in the motorhome and took off. Left me the 3 kids; age 5,3,1. Sorry that happened to you. I think the guy i am dating is a sociopath. He even told me he was an unempathic sociopath so i read this article we got into it last night and he said some really hurtful things. It was like he was a completely different person.
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Reading this it sounds just like him. And im an empathic women. Josh , i hope everything gets better for you and the little ones. They like to play on your emotions. Your question is typical of an empath you ask the question can he change? I wrote a post on this topic. I hope it helps. They are NOT happy chappies deep under….
I recently got out of a nasty, toxic relationship with a girl who I am confident is a sociopath. She has outwardly stated that he is mentally ill, and there were many of these red flags that I very foolishly ignored. We dated for 6 months, but because we saw each other so often in the beginning, we or I, should I say developed feelings for each other quickly.
None of my friends liked her, and for good reason. She was very rude, openly insulting my friends casually after just meeting them. She was a very unpleasant and rude person in general. Before dating me, she would casually bring up stories about all the different hook-up stories she had and different people she had sex with.
She would also get upset at me when I told her that those stories made me feel uncomfortable, and since I am not as aggressive as she I caved in and accepted that it was something I should learn to deal with. She is a master of manipulation. As passive as I am I am learning not to be so anymore I had never had anyone so effortlessly make me do things for her like she did. The number one thing you need to know about this girl, do NOT attempt to jab at her ego. Small things such as correcting her for saying something incorrectly would turn an otherwise normal situation into a tense one where she is very angry and frustrated.
She constantly needed to assure herself that she was the most intelligent person in the room, and it would be a dire situation if there was anyone who would challenge that. Every time I wanted to explain how difficult my coursework for my mechanical engineering degree was and how hard I worked, she took it as a jab and challenge to her intellect, even when it was completely unrelated to her.
Sign 5 — Lack of remorse, impulsive behavior, and no empathy For me, the most difficult part about this relationship was how it ended. In order for this to make more sense, I need to give a little backstory. During the last 3 months of our relationship, she stayed in my apartment for a month and we were long distance for the last 2 months. We are both still currently in college, and at the end of those months would be the beginning of the school year again, so the distance would have only been temporary. Since she had all of her things with me since we lied together, I agreed to let her keep her stuff until she comes back and I would help her move into her new apartment.
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She would get back to college a few days before I would, and she broke up with me the day she got back. She told me that she was unhappy with the relationship and just wanted her stuff, and the only reason she was staying with me was because she was afraid that I would destroy her things if we broke up then.
Keep in mind, in the entirety of this relationship, I had NEVER displayed any signs of violence or any other type of behaviors that would make that assumption reasonable. This was all over text, so my first reaction was to ask her for a phone call to at least speak to her.
She agreed, and we spoke on the phone for a bit. She was completely emotionless, and basically blamed the whole failure of our relationship on me. At that time, I ate it all up, and after we got off the phone, I believed her for a bit. She also picked up her things later that night since I told my roommate who was still living there to open the door for her.
I am not going to say that I am a perfect person, but I I am an honest enough person to recognize my shortcomings, but I would be lying to myself if I believed that those shortcomings were anything she said.
She just wanted to make sure I was nice and miserable while she was living it up with her friends and going out. Eventually, she tells me that she had left some random things in my apartment that she missed the first time. Since the break-up was still fresh and I was still kind of desperate to see her, I agreed. I am obviously uncomfortable, but I just ignore it. We get back to my apartment, and at that point I recognize what she was trying to do.
She basically wanted an excuse to have sex. At that point, the sex was very much over, and she immediately put her clothes back on and called a lyft as quickly as she could. Keep in mind that this happened within a week of us breaking up. Back to the situation, I am obviously mortified, but she was still very emotionless, and as soon as the sex was over, she tried to go back home as soon as possible. When she hopped in the lyft and went home, I texted her because I had so many bad feelings that just felt like a sink in my stomach.
My heart sank even deeper. It was at that point that I realized this person is a sociopath and gains pleasure from inflicting pain on me because she knows that she has power over me because of my emotional state. The only reason she was texting me after and maintaining contact with me was because she is really horny and I am an attractive guy who she likes to have sex with. It was rough but next time I have to watch the signs, because a person who treats everyone like shit will also eventually treat you like shit.
I am sorry that you have been through so much. Know that what has happened is no reflection on you. The only way to truly heal from this is to cut her off. In every single way. The longer that you remain in contact the more prolonged pain will be. Thank you for taking the time to read my experience. Your words are very kind and I appreciate the advice and support. It really helps and I feel better reading your reply.
Life is full of lessons and harsh experiences and instead of dwelling on them they should be lessons for the future. I just went through a similar situation.. A man I believe was a sociopath and made me feel I was the only person on the planet that mattered. Even went as far as to tell me he cared about me more than himself..
No real friendships to speak of either.
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This made me feel like I was the center of his universe. He as well had many past sexual experiences from which he told me about. I was accused constantly of messing around on him and I began fighting for my honor. Then he would tell me what a bitch I was and how selfish. Sometimes the last face slap would leave a bruise and me crying.
Somehow that would lead to me consoling him. Much like you I did many favors for him but he would insist he did so much for me. I believe when he thought he was unable to control me anymore he found his next victim. Of course I found out the hard way and he let me know how well she treats him to drive the knife in further. Just like you I lay awake often blaming myself and almost yearning for the relationship back, which is quite sick.
I just want you to know you deserve so much better than her. Take it as a learning experience and find someone who loves you for the caring man you are.
Hopefully we can both recover from this horrific experience. Best of luck to you but please unload her for good.