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I don't think that women are as accustomed as men are to 'selling' themselves for dates. So they really just don't know what to say, and don't feel much need to seem interesting or even very intelligent. When I'd first started using online dating sites, I assumed that most of the womens' profiles were bogus - that they were created by the service to make it appear that there were more female members than there actually were.
This was due to the fact that the profile information was so highly redundant. JAC I'll bet you that you're going to cease online dating soon enough. And the quality of the women you'll meet is poor. At least that was my experience. I'm a short guy 5' 4" and have no problem dating a woman who is taller than I am.
I realize that a woman who specifies a height preference is no different from a woman who specifies a certain race or age requirement.
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One more that should be added John Althouse Cohen, You might wish to check out, next time you're in a bookstore, "Quirkology" by Richard Wiseman, a rather carefree psychologist who did a little study on personal ads, focusing on what actually works and what doesn't. More than that about you and you look self-centered; less and you look like you've got something to hide.
Also, women would do well to get men to write their ads for them. My wife and I met on-line. She's 5'11"; I'm 5" At first, I would only search for matches under 5'10". Then, I broadened my scope and found my future wife' profile. Of course, on her profile, she said that she was only looking for six-footers.
I guess that's understandable for someone who is 5'11". But I took a chance anyway, and so did she; and it work out pretty good. She has also said that one reason she responded to me was because my profile was grammatical and free of typos. I once went out with a woman who told me, on our first date, that I was the shortest man she had ever gone out with.
No, not that kind of short. She was always attracted to tall guys--her dad had been 6'6" and her first husband 6'5" I am Joe Average'10". I asked her if I could be the shortest guy to go out with her twice. We've been married four years now and happy with the entire arrangement. There is always hope for the shorties. I sent her a note saying she was on the wrong site, she should go to www. For the unitiated Jewish men over 6 feet are rather rare. She wrote back, and told me that since men tend to exaggerate their height by two inches, she was really only restricting herself to men 5'10" or over, and she was 5'9".
I'm extra-inspired by the opportunity to become a fashionable accoutrement that goes well with her collection of high-heels. This reminds me of a profile I saw that said something along the lines of, "Looking for someone taller than me. I'm 5'8", so you should be at least 5'10", or 6' if I'm wearing high heels. Good job on this list, it should be required reading before publishing an online profile.
Next assignment, "Why did you pick that picture, are you trying to scare them away? There are also some things I could say about the photos women post. First, don't say you are slender when your photo clearly shows you are not. Second, please, no photos of you in creepy poses with your adult son. It drives me nuts when they say they like quiet nights at home.
Isn't that what they have now? I like the ones that post old photos when they were thinner and cuter.
Then the first time you meet them you don't even recognize them. What are people like that thinking? That their winning personality will overcome the fact that they were dishonest about their appearance? Sorry if you lie straight off the bat you're not gettnig a second chance. One more cliche common in Internet dating is to complain about the clichedness of everybody else's profile.
I'm unique, because I can spot the bland copycatedness in everyone else's efforts!
To quote someone I forget who this is intriguing the first five times you read it. If you start with the novel in these postmodern days premise that people are actually smarter about their own decisions than J. Random Rationalist Critic can be from the outside, you find yourself assuming women have good reasons to be bland, generic, and, yes, not reveal so much of themselves in Internet dating ads.
Asking yourself why that might be might be an interesting route to actual insight although not as much cheap blogging fun. I'll agree that specifying that you will absolutely only date men who are 6" tall is a mistake, but I have to disagree with the guy who said that it's like specifying a specific race or age preference.
In fact, I think all three of those things are completely different: Specifying a racial preference indicates that you're racist. Specifying a height preference isn't something that I would do. I agree with the guy who particularly takes issue with women who are 5'2 or generally shorter than most men and who only want to date extremely tall men.
Jaltcoh: 17 online dating profile cliches that women should avoid
I have discussed this issue with some particularly tall and large-framed women that I am friends with and I have started to see where they are coming from as far as not wanting to date men who are a lot smaller than they are. It's unfortunate and perhaps something that they should 'work on' but the truth is that a lot of bigger women have a lot of trouble feeling attractive and sexy when they are a lot bigger than their date. Is this a weakness on their part? But as someone else pointed out, maybe it's better that they are upfront about it.
I don't think it's equatable with being completely shallow. I can see a short man feeling the same way and not wanting to date an extremely tall woman because it would make him feel emasculated. I would describe it as an unfortunate result of society's expectations, but I wouldn't call the guys or girls who feel that way assholes. I don't think specifying an age range is weird at all.
The idea that age 'shouldn't' matter is total bullshit. It matters a lot to most people and for completely practical reasons. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with people who genuinely don't care, I'm just saying that there really isn't anything that weird about wanting to date someone around your own age.
I've dated people who are a few years younger than me and I've dated people who are a few years older, but does not wanting to date a 50 year old man or an 18 year old man, for that matter as a woman in her late 20s really make me equatable with someone who will only date white people? I don't see it. I am a woman who was on match. Since I've looked at a ton of men's profiles, here's what I think: I did do 1 generic adjectives though I think I used three of them. I think it's fine but not to go overboard especially if you're confident.
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No one wants to date you if you're unattractive, mean, high-maintenance, etc. And no one wants to date you if you can't describe anything about your personality. I agree with 2. Those activities are so annoying to list in one sentence. I agree with 3 and like 2, shouldn't be just listed as something you like. Needs to be more descriptive. No one's going to want to date you if you're embarrassed to be on the siteso don't sign up for it, eh?
20 online dating cliches - and what they really mean
I think it's another way of describing yourself, but better if you replace "My friends say" with "I" because it makes you seem more confident. But I don't think it should be on anyone's profile. The more qualifications you list on your profile the less likely you'll get a response. Ok I didn't specify a height, just that I like guys taller than me I'm 5'6". But you'd be surprised how many 5'5" guys are online!
Ugh I agree because this sickens me.