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I'm thankful that readers are sharing their true reactions to the post. Which is why I'm adding the addendum. Yes I was robbed. Back in my pentecostal Christian days, I was taught that God would bring along "the one" and all a Christian woman should do was wait. We were also taught to limit our pool of men to the "saved. Forget about sex before marriage as it is a sin. Needless to say, I abided by all of that and had limited experience in college.
I obeyed because the fear of hell can be strong.
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I was even convinced when a young christian guy who I dated preached that we were to be married "thus saith the lord. But that's another post.
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Eventually, I had to form emotionally intimate friendships with men because I began to crave communication with them. I also waited longer than most women to have sex. While that isn't a bad thing, I abstained not out of desire but out of fear. While I still believe that it is sinful according to Christianity, I can't deny that I would hate to be my age with no sexual experience.
I know of some ex-Christians who have reached 40 and beyond and lament the fact that they have no experience. I am glad that some bw bloggers are touching on the religious issues that keep black women single and waiting in vain. You said, "While I still believe that it is sinful according to Christianity, I can't deny that I would hate to be my age with no sexual experience.
I realized as a college student that people who beat others over the head with "holy talk" about why others shouldn't have unmarried sex usually fall into 2 categories: I would call this behavior the ethical equivalent of Marie Antoinette's "let them eat cake" admonition to the starving masses in France. It's thoughtlessly callous and cruel. I would probably have a different reaction to these people if they adequately warned young ladies about ALL the angles to these issues meaning the angles we've been discussing in the last few blog posts.
But they're NOT doing that. Instead, they're hitting women over the head with "keep your leg closed" while simultaneously setting them up to have very few datingand therefore marriageoptions. This is why I'm particularly p ssed off about the holy talk that is targeted at AA women. Well, what about my deceased acquaintance? She took all those "holy talk" slogans to heart.
And look at what it got her.
I can relate to many of the things the women have said. I too have dated men who had a car and wanted me to drive them, wanted me to pay for the date and so on. What stopped me from continuing this was one day I just started to have a conversation with myself. I decided what was accetable to me and what my boundaries were. I do not want to feel like that anymore. I'am not going to date anyone who has less than me, who treats me less than I would treat myself or another person.
But It took awhile because I thought there behavior was normal because I was told it was and my frineds were having similar situations. I even remember in grad school my family was still saying well you can't expect a man to have a car, house and a job. Well why did I have those things and I'm a single parent. Why was the standard different for them. Now that I have started dating quality men regardless of race my dad in particular is angry.
He wants me to only date black men. When I explain to him that I will only date quality men he states find a black man. Notice he never addresses quality and thinks that a black man instantlty equals quality because we are both black. I want to get married and to do that I have to expand my dating options to include all quality men not just black men. I always end the conversation with why do you not want me to have a husband who loves me and treats me like queeen. He gets quiet when I say that. He is still stuck in his Black power days and does not understand that the black men in his generation who married the mothers of there kids, worked even if the they only had high school diploma, did not use women for money or a place to stay, and provide and protect does not exist like it use to.
Alot of the kids are now growing up in fatherless homes and they do not see the benefits of marriage. They think it is normal for black women to go it alone and do it all. They seem to want you to take care of them and there needs only. I'm not with that anymore. To piggyback on the church talk I'm a Christian and I actively go to church. I've been in the black church and the white church and the white church does emphasize no sex before marriage but guess what? The white church provides plenty of opportunities for their singles to meet appropriate mates and marry. Many white christian women marry before they are The black church fails in that regard.
And the black church fails because there aren't enough appropriate single black men in the church and many of the men, married or not, use the black church as either a harem or as a bunch of mules to do their work. Right now, I attend a multicultural church where it is preached no sex before marriage not just because its bad but because of the diseases, unexpected pregnancy, odds of getting involved with men that after the fact, you find out you don't want to be involved with, etc.
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Many of the BW in my church and my age group have gotten married over the past two years, and a good percentage of the marriages are IR. BW who read here and go to church, just a word of advice: Look at your church, at the behavior of your pastor. Are there enough appropriate men to truly have a choice to meet, vet and marry, or is most of the church full of married men? Are many of the older women church mothers unmarried? Are there more single mothers than married mothers? If those answers are yes and you really want to marry, its time to find a new church.
Let me say something else that is sure to anger a lot of folks LOL! My mother's side of the family is Catholic, so I grew up being aware of the anti-Catholic ignorance and bigotry that many AA Protestants harbor. I believe that some of y'all need to reflect on that, and ask your indoctrinated church lady friends to ponder that as well. Nathifa, Thank you for your kind words about the post; I truly appreciate it. I praise God that you woke up out of the conditioning.
I enjoy reading your blog daily. While I dated extensively in college and attended a predominately white institution, my dating experiences did not include sex. That was a very affirming choice for me that did not leave me with the fear of pregnancy, disease, etc. I know that times have changed I completed undergraduate school in the late 80's but dating does not have to equal sex.
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The "keep your legs closed" idea was one that I embraced due to my spiritual values and one that I continued to embrace until marriage at age I don't regret that choice at all because I believe sex should be sacred. When I go to my reunions I am overwhelmed with gratitude that I didn't sleep with any of the guys I dated in college. I can look them in the eye and have no regrets. When I was in high school and college, I didn't date for religious and personal reasons.
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All that said, I met my dh the year after college graduation. I remember my friend previously mentioned bestie who graciously played chaperone , dh, and I were at the drugstore. I needed some shampoo and cleansing gel or something like that. Dh tried to pay, and I wouldn't let him. I was like, "Why? He was clearly frustrated that I wouldn't allow him to buy it for me, and I was confused as to why he cared enough to be frustrated. I have since realized, he was trying to take any little opportunity to show me that I was worth his resources, and that he was willing and HAPPY to provide.
This was early in our relationship, in fact it wasn't even a relationship at that point. I liked him, thought he was a nice guy and seemed to have many fine qualities. If I had to explain my behaviour, I'd say it was because I would have felt bad if a guy I wasn't sure about "wasted" his money buying things for me.
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I now know that a REAL man is not bothered by spending some money on a woman he is trying to get to know. I am not talking about that. Anyway, I adjusted quickly. We can unlearn unhelpful behaviors, as Khadija, Evia, et.