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Dad was born and raised in Malaysia and Mum in Hong Kong, and they moved to England in search for a better future in their twenties and teens respectively. I was mostly raised by my Granny while my parents worked six days a week at our family takeaway business. School lunches at primary school were a minefield for somebody that ate traditional Chinese dishes at home I also remember, later, taking lunch to eat at school and my peers being horrified at dim sum leftovers, braised pork belly, steamed fish and other dishes that I so treasured and loved.
With food so ingrained and esteemed in Chinese culture, I was thoroughly disheartened and decided to make a case for my parents to let me buy lunch at school. Yes, I was prepared to swap my home-cooked meals for turkey twizzlers…. Sundays would see us head to yum cha after Chinese school. Bamboo baskets filled with steamed buns, braised beef short rib, chicken feet, soup dumplings and sticky rice in lotus leaves, amongst many more.
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Yum cha is almost a ritual in itself: All of these activities call to mind my treasured childhood memories. As time has progressed, I find it interesting to see Asian cuisine trending and fetishised across the world: Break times at school were a bit wild too: The next hurdle in my attempts to be a normal British girl was, of course, that that stemmed from makeup and beauty. Ever since a sick day in primary school when Mum came home with tomato soup and my first ever issue of Girl Talk, I was an avid magazine reader. Remember my experience with books? That adoration of the printed word only magnified when faced with these colourful tomes that I could indulge in weekly, and often with a free gift.
I remember flicking through Sugar magazine, ELLE Girl, Teen Vogue who were admittedly better and other such magazines, looking for somebody that might make me feel known and that I could mentally model my clothes or makeup looks on.
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I was completely blown away that here was a British-born Chinese girl, teaching me how to apply makeup sans hooded eyelids, sans long eyelashes and with makeup products that my older cousins had helped me buy in Hong Kong just last weekend. What madness was this?! D I've heard of young overseas Chinese move to London or other big european cities and find a partner 'among their own'. I didn't know of the strict immigration laws in Netherlands. So you don't get a dutch citizenship until your parents were born in the Netherlands?
Posted 03 May - It is natural to be most interested in your own ethnicity. However, this is not a rule. I find that black guys tend to be more attracted to white girls then black girls. Just look at any successful black celebrity in America and you will notice that the rate in which they marry whites are quite high.
Black males tend to go for black females if they have no choice. As for white guys, their first choice is often a white girl. However, many of them have Asian fetishes and therefore prefer to "play" with Asians. To be honest with you, a lot of white guys see Asian girls as subservient sexual objects. I have been around whites my whole life and I know this through experience.
They tend to respect an Asian girl less as well since they feel we are from a less developed society and culture. My advice would be to find a good Chinese guy. But however there is still a line that consider your as a native or allochthone citizen. And that's exactly what I'm talking about. According to the laws, you can only called a native citizen if your parents are born in the same country where you're living in.
When I was a child, I was completely the opposite. I never liked my own culture and I'd find the caucasian women more attractive. But somehow I really changed. I think I got it from anime. Anime leads to Japanese music, food and culture. When I read lots of information about the Japanese culture, I start to compare that to my own one and I found lots of things that I didn't knew Also lots of hatred, similarity, difference among them. It also lead to Drama stuff, so now I'm also quite interested in the Korean culture. I'm disappointed that there's such a rule in the Netherlands which I considered more liberal than Germany.
I believe it is only a matter of terminology and doesn't have any legal consequences which makes the allochthone rule even more pointless. HK was so much more exciting and fun than the small town I grew up in. But it's natural that you'd have loads of fun on vacation in HK but everyday life there can be stressful and grueling. Posted 04 May - First of all, if you are not aware that black guys prefer light skinned girls then you are blind.
Also, did I put whites at the top of the social ladder? I simply stated successful blacks tend to go for whites and light-skinned black girls. Maybe black women are tougher on their kids and husbands. This I am not sure of but I have noticed that black women treat their men well if he is a stud.
I do know that black guys consider white girls to be much prettier, and more feminine then girls of their own race, as well as a status symbol. Black girls are loud and obnoxious even to black guys. Also, as for white-asian couples, I agree that some of them are happily married. However, I know many couples that are not. But white guys seeing Asian women as a sexual object, ofcourse this does not apply to every white guy, but it does apply to most.
If you can't say that the Asian female is almost always portrayed in a sexual way, then you don't know what's up.
Born Chinese, raised British: On being more than the token ‘Asian girl’
The truth hurts does'nt it. Community Forum Software by IP. AF needs funding again. Javascript Disabled Detected You currently have javascript disabled. This topic has been archived. This means that you cannot reply to this topic. Edited by Beckalee, 02 May - But I've also thought about this case. I'm born in Holland and according to the laws with my Dutch passport I'm an official citizen of The Netherlands.
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However, that doesn't mean that I'm Dutch, I'm still considered as an allochthone. Because you can only become Dutch, when your parents are officially born in Holland, so may I ever get some children, then they will be the the first official natives. At the first sight I would see myself as a Dutch citizen, but deep in my heart I'm still Chinese. The reason why I consider myself as Dutch citizen, is that they gave my parents the opportunity to work and live. For that reason, people like us should respect the norms and standards of this country.
Because after all, we're the ones who came here If our parents were denied, we didn't even exist We respect their culture and they respect ours. I'll keep my Chinese traditional values and pass it on my own children.
It's still traditional, but not as traditional from the real roots. We need to adapt it a little to our environment, the environment which I call the Western culture English and Chinese people do date but I think when it comes to who English guys notice or see as more attractive, they tend to notice the English girls first rather over Chinese or any other ethicnity.
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That's just natural, unless the English guy specifically likes Asian women. Guys from an African ethicnities would rather look at the women from their own culture first, same goes for Asian and Western guys. Asian couples understand each other better compared to a British guy and Asian woman vice versa Edited by J.
O, 02 May - Hey, I'm a British born chinese girl too. I've spent many hours questioning where I belonged too. And when I had the chance to make friends with those actually born in china, hk etc. I'm at university now it was the strangest feeling. I've had some interesting conversations with friends from HK and China about their own perception of overseas chinese.