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I've heard a lot of trans women say that they really think that they would enjoy having a trans male partner over a cis male partner, is this the same the other way around? What are your thoughts? Hi there, I'm not sure if there's a general type of an opinion that trans men may have about it, but for me personally there would always be a certain part of me that would prefer to have a trans woman as a partner over a cis woman. There are understanding cis women about, but they will never truly be able to relate with being transgender and obviously that's a massive part of my life, and would be very difficult if I had a cis partner who didn't at least fully understand, especially with the kind of dysphoric habits I have as someone who is pre op.
I don't think two trans people would necessarily automatically connect just due to shared experiences as there's other major factors too, but I'm sure it helps. I'm a pan trans guy and if I wasn't currently married to a cis guy I would definitely be looking to date other trans or gender nonconforming people. I feel like there's just a level of understanding that cis people can never really have because they haven't been through it. I wouldn't date a transwoman for the mere fact I'm not into women haaaa. Every guy is different though.
I might be with a woman in a platonic relationship but that's it. I can only speak from the "trans woman" point of view, but I think it has more to do with the fact that someone who is trans isn't going to worry about whether being with someone else who is trans makes them "gay," or how society is going to treat them or their partner because of it. Personally, whether or not a man is trans wouldn't really affect whether I'm interested in him or not, though I sometimes think having a trans male partner would be easier than having a cis male partner.
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I mean, depends on the people involved and whos available and interested. My bf is a trans man I'm a trans woman but had never dated a trans woman before me, and at least never really indicated a specific prefernce around that. Honestly most of my trans men and women friends are poly pansexual peeps, with some of the women leaning lesbish. Not to lump people into buckets or make blanket statements I would rather be with a trans person over a cis person. Trans people, having gone through our struggles have experiences and mindsets that I find far more interesting.
Where we've been, what we've had to open our eyes to And it sure as hell is nice to be able to relate to someone on a level many cis people will never understand. Of course that's not true for all trans people or for all cis people. It's just been my experience. I'm a trans woman and I married a trans man. Don't really care about body parts I'm attracted to brains. If I met a transman that I had an instant connection with and shared many interests, I would definitely pursue them. Same goes with cis men. But I unless that connection is there then I'm not really into our hairy opposites but prefer my own gender.
I suppose the same could be said about some transmen, in that while a genuine connection with anyone is best and being with a preferred gender is, well, preferred. I'm attracted to women, which includes trans women, but I'm not "seeking" trans women by any means. None of the comments so far express my view, which is that I wouldn't want to date another trans person.
The dysphoria double-whammy is not something I am interested in causing. I don't really care what the gender of my partner will be.
Cis or not, it doesn't matter. Cisgender people don't have a full understanding, maybe. I'd also support having a trans female or cis female partner over a cis male. Are they female or trans then I'd be able to have some connection of experiences but hobbies being shared would be even better. I recently got out of a relationship with a transman! I'm a trans girl Its actually really wonderful, and Its so refreshing to know that They know what your going through. Absolutely, I date, have great friendships, and just lovers as transwomen regularly.
As a queer cis male I take being queer to heart, and find all kinds of individuals attractive, though I mainly date, and have sexual partners that are either transmen, or transwomen. They also seem to really dig my masculine energy, and I've always had great communication, intimacy, and sexual energy together. Sounds wonderul that you are masculine. Im more interested in that. How is it when you date women?
Do you treat them different are you more soft too them. Can you explain intimacy in the appropriate way. I am open to dating but im scared of men. It's not sad, you have the right to have a rational fear of men, we aren't necessarily portrayed as gentle individuals that are accepting of a women such as yourself, it's understandable.
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Though also take into account that can be blown out of proportion, and I firmly believe more men then not are quite gentle, respectful, and not out to hurt anyone. Yes, many women prefer a very a masculine energy, and I feel that in balance with showing you do care, and want to protect them as well relaxes a women, and helps them to open up more about being with a man such as myself.
I do my best to make sure I'm very clear in communication, respectful, and show that they are safe with me. Personally I'm a very gentle man, but of course my kinkier interests with proper discussion with my partner can be quite intense, and the opposite of gentle, it's all about the individuals perception, and comfort level.
A certain dominance from a masculine man is normal, I'm natural alpha or whatever you wanna call it, it is just me, but doesn't mean I'm an aggressive asshole. Intimacy is a natural human connection, it's no more different from anyone else, it's all about mutual respect, feeling wanted, and being open with one another to grow closer.
Most important trust yourself, not everyone has the best intentions, or may fetishize you, make sure the person sees you for who you. I hope that helps, and I'm happy to answer anymore questions, or if you ever need someone to talk to. Im very big on communication and letting the man be more domainte in certain areas. I like masculine energy as you stated. Intimacy im highly scared of. Which im trying to be more comfortable with but im a virgin excuse if that is too much info.
Im so scared that men will see me sexually which scares me. I always want to be open and honset.
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I just do not know how to date. Im quite soft spoken and passive. I get so up tight around men. I can never loosen up. If not for my nominally monogamous relationship with my transman husband, yes, I would. Provdided we got along, and she liked gaming or whatever. Y'know, so long as she's a fun a person to be around. I'm a cisgender male, hoping this example is helpful.
After admittedly having a hard time thinking about it I'm pretty sure I would be totally OK with being with a trans woman, especially my girlfriend! We are long-distance, having never met in person. We try to talk as often as possible but due to age and less-than-accepting parents on his side and overprotective on mine we can't do this often.
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I think a lot of people just don't understand what transgender means or the technicalities - I have to be honest I didn't at first. Not everyone is open to or happy about dating or being with a transgender person, but there certainly are many people who are: I love hearing that acceptance you have with your girlfriend.
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That is so beautiful to hear. It gives me hope really it does. The struggles you do have i hope you guys can make it through. I have had only a long distance not face to face or been on dates.
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This field is highly new too me. How do you find those people do you know? Sure, happy to talk about it, there's a bit more in my post history. Apologies for mistakes and wall of text nature in below, it's 1: Without going into too manu details we met on an online technology forum, mildly popular. Back then she still identified as a cisgender gay male and we thought of each other as friends.
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Soon after she told me she had now realised sorry, can't think of a better phrase she was transgender. She asked me what I thought about being with a transgender girl and back then I honestly said I wasn't sure. Didn't get the hints: A few months passed of talking as friends, then after we'd been casually chatting she said there was other deeper stuff she wanted to say but couldn't. A couple of days later she finally told me she had feelings for me and to be honest I'd seen it coming, and developed them for her.
She is still post-everything but that's fine by me - she is a girl inside and I love her - does external body parts really matter if you love someone? We had always planned for her to move to my country even before we started a relationship.