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Define it with your child.
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Be brave enough to have hard conversations about physical and emotional intimacy and reputation and anything else that concerns you. And remember to have this conversation in a way that respects their need to feel grown up with your need to protect them. Keeping a neutral expression while you talk will help tremendously. Also, this may help. While you have a web of questions in your head about young dating, most of the decisions I see middle schoolers make relate back to just one question: What kind of person do I want to be?
Who wears Vans or Nikes? Who eats meat or goes vegetarian? She learned what her limits and boundaries are and should be, and best of all she learned how to say NO and back away from something she clearly wasn't ready for. My friend agreed that was good, but she still doesn't think it's appropriate for kids this age to have these experiences and I respect her opinion. So just curious what you all think? It seriously put me off boys for the next two years: Nice to see so many thoughtful opinions and insights on the subject.
Our daughters are ALL very lucky to have such caring moms: S H, yes I'm aware of what you are talking about re the group thing, and I know that can and does happen, but because our downtown is only two blocks long it's pretty easy for me to monitor the activity.
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For example, I can be having a coffee at Starbucks and see them in front of the fountain down the street. If they decide to go around the corner for ice cream then I may decide I need to run into the drugstore across the street from there and follow them always from a distance of course! I don't do that every time, just enough to get a feel for the group she's hanging out with.
There is plenty of time to learn about boundries and things like that. I was 18 when I had my first boyfriend. When I was 13, I was busy hanging out with my girl friends to even think about boys yet. In fact the day I kissed someone was because around 20 kids decided I waited to long I was then 14 so they decided I was going to kiss one of them.
I can also say most of them werent J. I don't think that dating at 13 is as innocent as you think. Atleast as soon as hormones hit the boy it wont be. Now is the time to educate her and talk about her hopes and thoughts on intimacy and risks involved I didn't have a pre-determined age for my daughter dating she is now 18 and a freshman in college. Fortunately, she was WAY too busy with softball and school to even think about dating until her Junior year. She had a lot of guy friends on the baseball and football teams.
Middle School Dating: Are They Too Young and Should Parents Worry?
She also hated to see the drama that her friends went through with boys when they were younger. She is dating on training wheels. This is a perfect time for her to start to figure things out and for you to guide her. If you do not "allow dating" you are not "allowing" a discussion with your child about it. The end result is that I never sought my parents advise on any dating situation even in my teens and twenties and looking back on it, I REALLY wish I could have had it.
I went through lots of really rough patches all by myself. I was always so jealous of my friends who talked to their parents about boyfriends and problems that they had.
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Like you, I had my first boyfriend at 13 who also tried to put his tongue down my throat. It is a disservice to allow our girls to be put into this situation when they are clearly too young to 1 be kissing, 2 deal with the heartache of breaking up, and 3 deal with the feelings of love. I am with you on allowing "dating" but I also had a friend who, like your friend, didn't permit it. Her daughter ended up sneaking a boyfriend, having make-out sessions after school and getting way deeper into the whole relationship thing than I believe the girl really wanted to go.
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Because she was forbidden from having a boyfriend, she couldn't go to her parents for guidance. Eventually she got caught and after a long discussion with her parents, she was allowed to "date" as long as they knew the boy. I think I would rather have my teenager's relationship out in the open than sneaking behind the school's dumpsters any day. I think you did fine. I think it's great that she felt safe talking to you. My opinion is that kids don't just magically know what to do just because they had a birthday and are of "the age" to date.
We do a disservice to our children with that type of mentality! I feel that by letting her try a little, but being involved and there to talk to, you are able to guide her through some basic decision making and confidence building steps so that she's more prepared later on when it's "real" dating. Of course, if kids are just left alone to "date" at 7th grade, not much good could come of it. But learning some real basics with an involved parent is a good thing. When I was in 7th grade, I was "going with" a boy that I am still friends with, 24 years later!
My dad used to say "where ya going? It'd just make me roll my eyes and say "DAD! But momit's interesting, looking back now with adult eyes, to know that she was guiding and teaching me, even though I didn't really realize it. She knew where we were at all times not allowed at his house, but we could go to my housebedroom door ALWAYS open, or to the public pool she knew the lifeguards there on a first name basis , and a couple times we went to the mall and ate at Casa Ole, or went to the movies with 5 other kids including my little brother , we all went in 2 cars, dropped off by 2 moms.
But she knew what was going on, talked to his mom, it was a little independence but in a dose my 12 year old self could handle. We did have hormones and some desire to get away, but seriously, there wasn't opportunities for that, lol. We just hugged and kissed but not open mouth. We moved away a year later, and were pen pals. Now we talk on FB once in a blue moon, and phone a couple times. My husband actually likes him; they talk more than we do. It was just a childhood thing but no "real" anything ever developed. There was another boy before him, who DID kiss me with his tongue.
Mom let me go over there but his mom was different I almost felt pushed and pressured from her to be with her son, which was very very strange. I actually "broke up" with him because his mom kind of scared me and didn't act like mine. I talked to my mom about it and she helped me with how to do it in a cool way that didn't hurt feelings, and also encouraged me that I was making the right choice and doing well following my instinct about that mom. But the tongue kiss WAS gross ha!
So I didn't do that with the guy I just mentioned. Because I didn't want to ruin it all with grossness. P I think that did give me the power later to say no when I wanted to say no, and to not give in to weird pressure. I was seriously shocked when "dating" became an issue when my daughter was in the 4th grade. Some moms actually thought it was cute for kids to "go steady", hold hands, give gifts, and even kiss each other.
The school had a policy against it and the moms became up in arms because they felt what their kids did was none of the school's business even though it was going on at school. The teachers wouldn't let them have desks near each other. The teachers wouldn't let them sit together and hold hands at lunch and recess and kiss each other. We're talking 4th graders. One of the moms tried to suck me in and get me to help change the school policy and I told her I wanted no part of it.
I thought kids that young thinking they were in "relationships" wasn't cute, it was inappropriate and stupid. She never spoke to me again. As if I cared. I live in a small town and luckily I didn't have to do much to enforce my rules. My son is a Junior in high school and although he has many girls who are friends, he is not interested in "dating" any of them. He's grown up with the same group of kids and by now, most of the girls he knows have had about boyfriends since middle school. It was the same thing for my daughter.
It's all a bunch of drama that's ridiculous for kids so young.
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There are going to be crushes. It's inevitable that kids are going to have feelings for someone. However, chances that someone you like turning out to the the lifelong love of your life are very slim at best and I think as parents, we need to guard our kids hearts a bit. It's not like people get married off as teenagers anymore. I think it's strange in this day and age that really young kids are so eager sometimes to pair off. My kids both know girls that have gotten pregnant at 14, 15, The girls are devastated to realize that a 14, 15, 16 year old boy has no capacity for being a father and financially supporting a family.
Make sure that you already talk to this person during the week, so asking them out won't be as awkward, and the relationship will work out better, since you already know a decent amount about the person.